Backbiting and Slandering

A woman repeated a bit of gossip about a neighbor. Within a few days the whole community knew the story. The person it concerned was deeply hurt and offended.

Later the woman responsible for spreading the rumor learned that it was completely untrue. She was very sorrowful and went to a wise old sage to find out what she could do to repair the damage.

“Go to the marketplace”, he said, “and purchase a chicken, and have it killed. Then on your way home, pluck its feathers and drop them one by one along the road”. Although, surprised by this advice, the woman did what she was told.

The next day the wise man said, “Now go and collect all those feathers you dropped yesterday and bring them back to me.”

The woman followed the same road, but to her dismay, the wind had blown a11 the feathers away. After searching for hours, she returned with only three in her hand.

“You see,” said the old sage, “it’s easy to drop them, but its impossible to get them back. So it is with gossip. It doesn’t take much to spread a rumor, but once you do, you can never completely undo the wrong.”

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What is backbiting

Allah’s Apostle (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said: Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Apostle (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) know best. Thereupon he (the Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander.
[Sahih Muslim, Hadith 6265]

Lessons

Backbiting – saying something about a person that he does not like.
even if it is true

Slandering – saying something about a person that he does not like and it is not true.

Allah curses those who backbites and slander in Surah Humazah
Woe to every slanderer and backbiter. (1)
Surah Humazah 104: 1

We have covered the lessons on this surah HERE.

Allah says avoid suspicion and spying of others in Suratul Hujurat

O ye who believe! avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: and spy not on each other nor speak ill of each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay ye would abhor it…but fear Allah: for Allah is Oft-Returning Most Merciful.

surah Hujurat 49:12

Those spreading gossip does not enter Paradise

The one who spreads gossip (Namaam) will not enter Paradise (Bukhari)

Think again about career of becoming reporters for tabloids.

The one who spreads gossips will be tortured in the grave

ABLUTIONS (WUDU’)
Bukhari :: Book 1 :: Volume 4 :: Hadith 215
Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:

Once the Prophet, while passing through one of the grave-yards of Medina or Mecca heard the voices of two persons who were being tortured in their graves. The Prophet said, “These two persons are being tortured not for a major sin (to avoid).” The Prophet then added, “Yes! (they are being tortured for a major sin). Indeed, one of them never saved himself from being soiled with his urine while the other used to go about making gossips. The Prophet then asked for a green leaf of a date-palm tree, broke it into two pieces and put one on each grave. On being asked why he had done so, he replied, “I hope that their torture might be lessened, till these get dried.”

Naudzubillah!!

The words of backbiting is so dirty it can even change the clolur of the sea.

General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)
Dawud :: Book 41 : Hadith 4857

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:

I said to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him): It is enough for you in Safiyyah that she is such and such (the other version than Musaddad’s has:) meaning that she was short-statured. He replied; You have said a word which would change the sea if it were mixed in it.

Those who backbites and slanders will scratch themselves with brass nails

Anas reported that Allah’s Messenger sallallahu alaihi wasalam said,

When I was ascended (to the heavens), I came across a people that had nails made of brass, with which they were scratching their faces and their chests. So I said, “Who are these people O Jibraeel? He said: They are the ones who eat the flesh of people and dishonour them.”

Description of punishment of the backbiters and slanderers in Suratul Humazah

and we have studied in Surah Humazah what the punishment of Hutamah to the backbiter and slanderer.

The backbiters and slanderers will be a bankrupt in the yaumul akhirah

Allah’s Messenger (saw) as saying:

“Do you know who is a bankrupt? They (the Companions) said: A bankrupt man amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth. He (saw) said: The bankrupt man of my Ummah would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers and fasts and Zakah but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, brought calumny against others and unlawfully consumed the wealth of others and shed the blood of others and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of one (who suffered at his hand). And if his good deeds fall short to clear the account, then his sins would be entered in (his account) and he would be thrown in the Hell-Fire.” [Muslim]

We go to masjid for every five prayers, we give generously,we fast Monday and Thursday and the three days of the month, we do nawafil, we wake up at night, we urge people to do good, we forbid evil whenever we can, we help clean up the mosque. We go to classes. In short we try to do all the good deeds that we can.

But if we still talk about others or abuse others, we are at risk of giving all our deeds to the one we have been badmouthing in the judgment day. And if our deeds were not enough to cover our sins to the person, we have to shoulder the other person bad deed.

Summary
1. Allah makes similarity if backbiting/ slandering to eating someone’s flesh Al Hujurat 49: 102
2.Rasululullah sallallahu alaihi wasalam akins backbiting to that the words of the backbiters will change the colour of the sea when mixed with it. Hadith by Aisyah r.a.
3. The backbiters/ slanderers will be the bankrupt ones on aumul akhirah.

Punishment of the backbiters and Slanderers
1. Allah curses them Al Humazah 104: 1
2. tortured in the grave – hadith Sahih Bukhari
3. Tortured in yaumul akhirah with nails of brass scratching own face and chest – hadith by Anas r.a.
4. Punishment as described in Suratul humazah
– Flunked in Hutamah the crushing Fire
– Fire that lepas over the heart
– Fire that encloses one in pillar

Reference
1. Guarding the tongue – Golden Advice series Darussalam

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3 responses to “Backbiting and Slandering

  1. Pingback: What to do when you hear someone is backbitten | Lollies Place

  2. Sarah

    Assalamu Alaikum,
    I’ve been slandered. How do I make these people clear my name. Please give me a dua to make these people stop slandering and clear my name.

    Jazakallahu Khairan

    • lolliesplace

      Continue to do good and have an incredible patience. Make plenty of dua to Allah. May Allah alleviate your problem. Allah will be with those who are patient. Allah does not leave those who are oppressed except to answer their dua.

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