The Children Going for Umrah

Our last two weeks lessons was all about the ibadah umrah.

We discussed about the ibadah and went through the rukun and also the sunnah for each rites. We discussed the forbidden things to do. What halal things that become haram during the ihram.

We tried to memorise the supplication, the niyah, talbeeyah, the dua befoe entering Kaabah area, looking at hajaratul aswad, the supplication between rukun yemeni and hajaratul aswad.

I checked the children’s recitation of suratul kafirun. Then we memorised the saee’s supllication. I told them the story of Prophet Abraham a.s. and Siti hajar and Prophet ismael and how the ritual of sa’ee began.

I emphasised on the sacrifice that all of them made for the sake of Allah. It is important for us to see the story of Siti Hajar on how when she learnt that Prophet Abaraham a.s. left them in the barren desert by Allah’s order, she was content. She submitted and believe that Allah will protect them.

This is something we need to keep repeating to the children (and ourselves). Allahs asks for us now to obey Him, do things that are told, do extra things for Him to please Him and to stay away from haram. Instill to them that we need not question Allah’s order and submit to Him alone.

Anyway, H, was initially not so happy about shaving off his whole head for tahallul. I do not want to make him do things that he didn’t really want to do. However I narrated to him this hadith,

Bukhari :: Book 2 :: Volume 26 :: Hadith 785
Narrated Abdullah bin Umar:

Allah’s Apostle said, “O Allah! Be merciful to those who have their head shaved.” The people said, “O Allah’s Apostle! And (invoke Allah for) those who get their hair cut short.” The Prophet said, “O Allah! Be merciful to those who have their head shaved.” The people said, “O Allah’s Apostle! And those who get their hair cut short.” The Prophet said (the third time), “And to those who get their hair cut short.” Nafi’ said that the Prophet had said once or twice, “O Allah! Be merciful to those who get their head shaved,” and on the fourth time he added, “And to those who have their hair cut short.”

Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. prayed three time for Mercy from Allah to those who shaved their whole head. I also talked to him about the feeling of humility in the eyes of Allah. He now agrees to it. Of course I also told him that he will have two weeks school holiday, the hair will grow a bit by then. Not to mention, macho.😛

S wanted to shave off her head too, listening to this hadith. Allah makes things easier for woman, Alhamdullilah, we are spared from doing so.

We discuss other things that we can do throughout our stay in Makkah and Madinah. Among them for example
1. Tawaf
2. Ii’tikaaf
3. Lots of dzikirs
4. Read the Quran. Try and set a target to complete. To complete it would be good.
5. Perhaps set a target to memorise more surahs.
6. We can do ziarahs to some places. Among them in line are visiting all the places for hajj rites. H really wants to to visit the Mount Uhud. He wants the feeling of climbing it too.

I prepared a document of a simple guideline for the kids to do umrah. I also printed out the basic supplications and printed them out on small cards. They will look at them this week and have them memorised Insya Allah. You can check them out here. I urge you to inform me of any mistakes in this document so that I can have it rectified where appropriate and thus we can learn from each other.

The cover page is designed by S. Then both H and and Z wanted their drawings on the book too. I will perhaps edit this book and put their drawings in the book itself.

For other supplications, as the sunnah is, there are no specific supplication narrated in hadith. I gave them some tips to help them focus on the dua that they can make, Insya Allah. I pray to Allah that He accepts this humble effort of mine to help bring the children closer to Him.

We made a practice of doing the umrah. And doing pretend tawaf and sa’ee. In fact the whole do. They had fun and I believed it helped them understand the whole rites.

Pray for our safe journey and things to be made easy on us. Ameen

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23 responses to “The Children Going for Umrah

  1. sarahs'

    salam…

    thank you for sharing everything in here. as we planned to go for umrah the whole family – first time – this coming wednesday, your articles in here really help us!
    i have 4 girls age from 10 – 5years….and really pray that everything will go well. alhamdulillah…the girls are all excited to see the kaabah ‘live’ in front of their eyes.
    keep on going sis and may Allah bless you forever.

    salam..
    The Sarahs’

    • salaam,
      i have just read your blog, i note it was published in the april 2009. i am planning to, inshallah, perform umrah as a family also in mid march 2010 nearly exactly a year from when you did. i also have four children but boys instead of girls ages from 10-3.

      i would absolutely love to know how your umrah went in terms of the children not getting lost, not finding/finding it too hot, crowds at that time of year, your ability to concentrate on your prayers whilst keeping an eye on your girls, your experience in being separated from your spouse in certain areas and only looking after some children who were allowed to be with you and your experience overall.

      i know it is a lot to ask but i would appreciate any input you can make as i think our situations are very similar and i am having doubts as to whether we should go on our own or with the boys. i think it will be beneficial to the children but am i wrong? please contact me and let me know your thoughts.

      jazakallah

  2. siti

    slm..i was blog hopping and found your blog bout umrah guidelines. I print out your version (forgive me for printing it out without your consent), but my dua – moga rahmat Allah mengiringi perjalanan hidup u sekeluarga! Ameen
    I will be going for umrah too in May, insyaAllah.

  3. lolliesplace

    salam sisters. i sincerely hope you will find the guideline useful. However some of the things there may not be applicable for you such as the meeqat place. But the essence is still teher Insya Allah.

    I also found some grammar and spelling mistakes😛. Do forgive me.

    I pray that your ibadah umrah will be made easy for all of you and that the kids enjoy their time there.

    Do make prayers for the whole ummah when you are there.🙂

  4. aliya

    Did you know that a woman’s prayer in her hotel room in Makkah gets more reward than if she prays in Masjidil Haram?

    Jeng jeng jeng

  5. lolliesplace

    aliya – oh dear. like praying in the house?

  6. aliya

    Yep2. Because when Rasulullah talked abt the reward of a woman’s prayer is greater in her house than in the masjid, he was in Madinah at that time. So imagine, in the house/hotel in Madinah.. the reward is greater than praying in Masjid Nabawi!!

    This stresses the point that Islam is built on nas not logic kan. Sebab kalau ikut logic, dah alang2 sampai Masjidil Haram, apa lagi..solat di situ la!😀

    p/s just saying which reward is greater, bukan maknanya tak bleh solat kat Masjidil Haram.

  7. teha

    tee hee- that was very good indeed, mashalla!

  8. Thank you for sharing this entry.

    I love sharing tips and advices on performing umrah with children too. My husband and I brought our sons at the time were 3 months old and 4 1/2 years old. It was quite of a challenge but Alhamdulilah, with God’s willing, we’re all good. In fact, we miss of going there again with our kids🙂 insyaAllah. I shared some photos in my blog too. Those who wants to know tips managing breastfeeding baby, toddler and kids feel free to email me (msmuna@gmail.com). Am more than willing to share my experience. insyaAllah🙂

  9. HAFSA

    salam,
    masha Allah, I very impress, will insha Allah apply it with my children (A is 10yrs and R is 6), its their first time and am afraid i may not give them
    the best.
    jazakal Allahu khairan.
    hafsa

  10. Lyn

    As Salam,

    Barakallah to u and your family for sharing this with us.
    🙂

  11. nafeessa

    Assalamoualaikoum Sister,
    Am planning to go to Umrah inshalah in 2 weeks. While doing some research i found your blog. (very happy to find it)

    My problem is actually i have a 1.5 baby and a 3.5 yr son. Our flight will reach at night just sametime for esha prayers. By the time we will reach masjid Haram, it will be over. My kids will start feeling sleepy and tired and i know they will definitely cry and moan and sleepy. I don’t have anyone to drop them with.
    then i thought of going for umrah rituals the next day of our arrival, but husband said it’s not good, since we will already be in ihram and made niyaat.

    Am simply confused and husband also said if we take wheel chair for the kids, it is not permitted down next to ka’ba, it should be done up on the 1st floor.
    i soo want to be next to kaaba while doing my tawaaf.😦

    please advise
    jazaakallah khair
    N

    • lolliesplace

      Masya Allah. tabarakallah. Alhamdulillah for the opportunity that by Allah’s will He gives you and family to do umrah. May Allah give tremendous reward for the family with small children to perform their umrah and grant them patience and easiness.

      First of all, all families have different styles and ways of handling things. You know better what fits your children and how to soothe them. Just my advice based on my limited experience and observation –
      1. It is best to do umrah after Isya’ especially if you are female and have kids. This is because you can do it continuously without being stopped and asked to get in saff for prayers. It is easier for men because they can pray nearly everywhere but we need to find the woman’s place which is usually at the back (please refrain from praying next to hubby at the man’s place). And when you have kids with you, you would need a bit more space. It is not in general difficult but Haram has in flux of people now (I just got back last two days). So your husband’s recommendation is the best Insya Allah.

      2. the children will also get a bit groggy if you do it the next day that is after fajr. Sleepy and hungry. And after isya’ is cooler iNsya Allah. May Allah make it easy for you.

      3. I personally feel it is easier to make tawaf next to the kaabah. But i have never pushed a wheelchair before. But I see many are pushing wheelchair at the lowest floor. No one seems to reprimand them. I see many children sleeping in the wheelchair as well. What a sight! They look so peaceful. Masya Allah. Take the outer circle of the tawaf and avoid large group. Insya Allah khayr.

      4. try not to have big argument with your husband though. He he he. The upper circle is relatively easier to push the wheelchair and you can see the kaabah from top. It is quite a sight too. It is a larger circle though. Three times more. So it’ll take you longer time to do tawaf. Maybe if your husband feels stronger about this, you follow his advice, then do voluntary tawaf on your own next to the kaabah. Ask hubby nicely if he could look after the kids for a while. Otherwise Insya Allah khayr, all will be rewarded.

      Hope these help.

  12. Assalamu alaykum, what’s the best method to contact you?🙂

    -Hafsa

  13. I have learn a few just right stuff here. Definitely price bookmarking for revisiting. I wonder how much effort you put to create one of these fantastic informative website.

  14. Monsur

    Assalamualikum,

    I was wondering whether, with your permission, I can print the guide for my 8 year old. If so, Please tell me How i can print?

    JazakAllah Khair

  15. muslimhomeschoollondon

    Asalamu alaykum, I was wondering if I could contact you with regard to this booklet. I would like to ask your permission with regard to it. Jzk
    Umm yusuf

  16. Barakallah to u and your family for sharing this with us. Today read this blog and nostalgic feeling. Thanks to all guide me especially Dawn Travels .

    http://www.dawntravels.com

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